Dear Birth Parent,
Thank you so much for considering me as the adoptive parent for your child. While I cannot fully understand the feelings you are experiencing, I admire your courageous and selfless choice. I am grateful that you are taking the time to read about me and my life and hope that my story will take you one step closer to choosing what is right for you and your unborn child.
I am aware of the challenges of parenting, especially as a single mom. This is not a decision I have taken lightly. As I have gone through the adoption application process, I feel even more thankful that adoption is an option for me, since fertility issues have prevented me from giving birth to a child. I have wanted to be a mom for a very long time, and adoption will make this dream come true.
I am so incredibly lucky to have a lot of people that are excited about a child joining my life. All of these people will be available to help me with both celebrating this child and addressing any challenges of being a mom. Whether it’s my mom and dad, my brother, my nephew, my aunts and uncles, or my friends, everyone will shower a child with so much love. There will be no shortage of people in this child’s life that will help them and help me as we build a life together as a family.
I have brown hair and green eyes. I’m tall with a medium build. I’m in excellent health and enjoy being active. I am christian and have practiced my religion my whole life. I graduated from college with a degree in accounting and then graduated at the top of my class from graduate school with a degree in elementary education.
I am a public school elementary teacher, so I spend my day with children. I love my job. It changes everyday. The students always make me laugh. My classes and I have fun together, but the students also work hard and follow rules. I spend time in the beginning of each school year explaining the procedures of the classroom. Each student knows what is expected of him or her and what is acceptable and what is unacceptable. This will carry over to my home when I have a child. I will provide a loving home and a caring and trusting environment. There will be both structure and limits. I will engage and learn about the child’s interests. I have worked for the same district for 10 years. Because of this, I have built up a large amount of sick time which will allow me to stay home for quite a while with the baby.
I grew up in a very loving home. My father ran a business, and my mother was a stay at home mom for my brother and me. She went back to work as a teacher when I was a teenager. I loved helping my mom set up her classroom. My dad traveled a lot and I had a world map in my bedroom and would always know where he was each day. I lived in a duplex early in my childhood. My family lived on one side and my grandmother and uncle lived on the other side. One of my fondest memories of that house was a door upstairs that connected both sides. I called it the trap door. I remember going through it at night to watch TV with my grandmother in her bedroom. At night, when my Dad got home from work, he used to take my brother and me to visit my other grandparents. There were always sports on TV. My Nana would make meals on the weekends for our family. She made the best chicken soup. I cherish the times I had with my grandparents.
My family enjoyed many vacations. We loved going to the beach in the summer. We visited different mountains to ski. My parents made sure we had a wonderful childhood, but also made sure we knew what was expected of us. We were brought up to be kind and loving people, because my parents always showed us the same love and kindness.
My brother is 3 ½ years older than me. We went to different high schools and different colleges. I can remember waiting for him to call home when I was in high school and he was away at college. I was always excited to hear about what he was up to and more excited when we would visit him.
I continue to have a close relationship with my parents and brother and value their opinions. We see each other often, have weekly family dinners, attend sporting events, and other activities.
My brother has a 6-year old son named Cole. He and I have a special bond. We do many things together. We love to…
- Play baseball and basketball
- Dress up as superheroes
- Ride bikes
- Play hide and seek
- Read books
- Play board games
I enjoy all the time I am able to spend with Cole. My parents spend a lot of time with Cole, as well. My mom watched him a few days a week before he was school age. Now, she picks him up from school and I often visit them after work. I know that my parents will be involved in my child’s life the same way they are involved in Cole’s life.
One thing I like to do in my spare time is play tennis. I belong to a tennis club in my town. I participate in a weekly clinic. I am the assistant girls’ tennis coach at a local high school. I enjoy helping out and getting to know the girls. I have been coaching for 5 years, but do not plan on continuing when I have a family.
My house is in a suburban neighborhood. My two-story home has 4 bedrooms. It is on a corner lot, with a nice deck and a flat yard. My neighborhood is filled with children, often riding bikes or playing nearby. There is an elementary school and a public library within a mile. My church is nearby. I am not far from the center of town, with stores and restaurants.
As your child grows, I will ensure they know about their adoption and the selfless and loving choice you have made for them. I will always be open and answer questions they have about their adoption honestly. The child will know that you loved them so much that you chose me to be their mother. I will always speak about you with respect. I look forward to experiencing all of the exciting milestones throughout childhood, and I hope to share my pride in their growth and accomplishments with you.
Entrusting me with your child’s care will be my deepest honor. I promise to raise your child with kindness, compassion, understanding, encouragement, and lots and lots of love and laughter. Thank you again for considering me as the adoptive parent to your child.