Best Wishes Always!
Dear Act of Love,
We are so excited to be able to tell you all that our baby girl Ava’s adoption is final! It took a while to finalize the adoption due to the courts, but we are enjoying being a family! So hard to believe that it has been a year since you placed her in our arms. We’ve never been happier! She is the light & joy of our lives. We are looking forward to this new chapter in our lives and raising Ava with all of her family around her. Thank you, everyone for all the hard work that went into our case and bringing Ava to our family.
Best Wishes Always!
Act of Love Adoption Agency is well-known in the adoption community for the quality of adoption practices and attention to pre- and post-placement details. Having over thirty-five years of adoption experience, the compassionate and highly trained staff are able to help guide and support you through the adoption process. To find out more information regarding adoption services or talk to adoptive parents that have adopted from Act of Love, visit www.aactofloveadoptions.com/adoptive-parents or contact Act of Love Adoptions at 888-767-7740.
Options Counseling at Act of Love
“I want you all at Act of Love to know how much I appreciate each of you. I don’t know if you realize just how much help it is to hear that friendly voice at the times when all I want to do is cry and run. I know what I did was not only the best thing to do, but it was the only thing to do and I believe that without your help, I would have backed down. Thank you so much! “ DeeDee
Unplanned Pregnancy Options Counseling
Many women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy have questions, doubts, fears and many want the hope to know that they can make the best decision for their baby. Act of Love Adoptions is available 24 hours/7 days a week to help women and men who are making decisions regarding their pregnancy. Options counseling is FREE and does not obligate anyone to make a decision they are not ready to make.
The options counseling is available to provide time to process what may be the biggest decision that is ever made. Often times, it is easier to talk about big life decisions with someone who is not personally involved, but is knowledgeable and really cares about you and your baby. Trained counselors at adoption agencies are able to provide services to women and men experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and to help with an adoption plan or parenting resources.
For more information on the services available visit www.aactofloveadoptions.com , call 1-800-835-6360 or text to 801-450-0094. Caring staff is available 24 hours/ 7 days a week; including weekends and holidays. Take the time to make the best decision for you and your baby.
Sometimes Adoption is the Right Choice
As an expecting mother, the thought of placing your child has probably brought you much anxiety. You’re often wondering “Is this the right choice?” The real question is when is it the right choice? Here are some often considered reasons behind the choice.
Reason #1: Financial Security
This is perhaps the most common reason for why birth parents choose to place their children with an adoptive family. Many birth parents realize that they cannot meet their child’s needs in the way they would like, and sometimes adoption ends up being the best decision.
Reason #2: Not Ready to Be a Parent
In other cases, you’re simply not ready to be a parent. This could be due to the fact that you’re still in school, you’re pursuing your career, or you simply want your baby to grow up with both a mother and father. Again, this doesn’t make you a bad person. It just means that you don’t feel ready, neither physically or emotionally, to handle the day-to-day responsibilities of being a parent and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Have Confidence in Your Decision
The best reason for choosing adoption is that you want to see your baby grow having their needs met. Although you love them very much, sometimes adoption is the best decision. If you’re ever confused or have questions about adoption, feel free to seek counseling and advice from other mothers who have been in the same situation. Just know that, in the end, the choice will be yours.
If you would like to contact Dee, please email to email@example.com. Adoption support and counseling is always available 24/7 at Act of Love Adoptions. It would be our pleasure to offer you information and guidance as you consider your options for your child.
A Thought on Birth Fathers
In the world of adoption, most of the focus is on birth mothers and adoptive parents. An important part of the scenario is the birth father, but he is often a small part of the picture or not in the picture at all.
To be clear, some adoptions have participating birth fathers and as birth parents, together, they create an adoption plan. In fact, there are a lot of birth parents who are still dating or even married. Each situation is different and often inspired by factors like age, finances, or other considerations. Involvement from both parents provides welcomed support during the adoption process.
For others, the biological father may have left the picture, be unknown, or wholly disinterested in the process. For me, the father of my son pushed for abortion. When I informed him that I was choosing adoption he supported my decision, but towards the end of the pregnancy he sort of just disappeared. So although a few of us have involved birth fathers, many of us have the kind that leave, or ignore the pregnancy all together.
In defense of birth fathers, I’m sure many are afraid to participate in the adoption process. I know I was. It’s hard to walk through those doors or pick up the phone and have to work through the feelings of shame and guilt. The pregnancy is much easier to ignore when you’re not carrying a child for 9 months. However, I sometimes wonder about the emotional repercussions my ex- boyfriend’s absence will have on my son. I chose open adoption to protect him as much as I could from feelings of abandonment, but I have no control over his father.
I wrote this post mostly to confirm my commitment to positive and truthful representation of my son’s biological father to my son. I can only assume he cared in some way, but got too scared and overwhelmed with the responsibility. Although he left, he was still a smart and charming guy. These are characteristics that I hope my son shares.
What Does A Birth Mother Look Like?
Before I gave birth to my son, I always thought of adoption in the way it was portrayed on TV. Always as some crazy plot twist filled with deception, drugs, bad decisions or mental illness. It shaped the way I, and I’m sure other people, viewed adoptive parents and birthmothers.
But after giving birth, I entered this community of adoption and discovered what birth mothers really look like.
They are brave. Adoption is scary. Many birthmothers are often alone or without emotional support for their decision. It takes much bravery to deal with all of the small details that need to be assessed when going through the adoption process. This could mean interviewing adoption agencies, counseling sessions, creating the adoption plan, meeting potential adoptive parents, and finally signing the papers. It takes much bravery for a birthmother to move beyond her fears to participate in the adoption process.
They are strong. There is more to adoption than simply placing your child. After adoption there are feelings of bereavement to address, or isolation, or even just reacquainting oneself with friends and family. It is a daily act of strength to wake up each day and commit to move forward.
They are diverse. Yes, sometimes adoption can come out of a bad situation such as illness, abuse, or a break up, but there are other ways as well. Many women choose adoption because of their youth, or their inability to provide as a single mother. Some already have children. Some have more personal and unique reasons for choosing adoption. We are diverse, coming in all shapes, sizes, economic levels, and ages.
So no, all birth mothers are not the same. We look different and have different reasons for joining the adoption family.
Birthparents: Myths About Choosing Adoption
Adoption used to hold a stigma for all concerned – the parents who have adopted the child and most of all, the birthparents. The good thing is that this has changed for the better in the recent years. However, even with the growing acceptance of adoption as another way to build a family, there still remain some myths that need debunking.
Here are some of the common myths:
– Adoption is “giving the child up”. Nothing can be farther from the truth. Birthparents, especially the birth mothers, need to be freed from the stigma of having taken the easy way out. The choice for adoption is and never will be an easy one to make. People need to be aware of the kind of decision a birth mother makes when she chooses adoption. Yes, birthparents will naturally think about how the decision will have an impact on them personally, but the thrust is to make the choice based on the child’s best interest. Birthparents choose adoption because they know that they are not emotionally and financially ready to parent. It will be in the child’s best interest to ensure that he goes to a loving home, with parents who have the means to nurture and care for the child. This ultimately means giving the child what is best for him, not “giving up”.
– I need my parents’ consent to choose adoption. Regardless of whether you are an adult or not, the law gives the birthparents the right to make the choice. The birth grandparents cannot make the decision for you, nor can they force their choice on you. However, your parents can be a good source of moral support, so make the effort to have a heart-to-heart talk with them to help them understand your reasons behind your choice.
– What about the father? Involving the father and the mother of the child in the adoption plan can help provide the child with his social and medical history. Adoption counselors are able to help both birth father and birth mother make adoption plans and post-adoption contact.
– Birth mothers can receive compensation from prospective parents. No, choosing adoption is not about financial gain for the birthparents. Rather, adoption is about placing the child in a home where he is loved and where he can grow and thrive. The birthparents are supposed to make their choices without any coercion, undue influence or intervention from parents or the adoption agency. Birth mothers may receive assistance for their pregnancy related expenses; such as, living expenses, as well as the medical costs and the costs involved with legal services and counseling.
– You can no longer change your mind. Birth moms cannot relinquish their rights to their child until the child is born. In many states, birth fathers can relinquish their rights prior to birth. Reputable agencies such as A Act of Love will not exert influence or coerce a mother into choosing adoption when this no longer is her choice and will provide counseling to birth parents regarding the adoption process. Legal counsel will be made available to birth parents that have legal questions and to explain when their rights have been terminated. Adoption plans can also be made with a child that has been born.
– The adoption agency is on the waiting parents’ side. A reputable adoption agency will seek to work for the best interests of the adoption triad – the birthparents, the parents and especially the child. As a potential birthparent you will receive counseling to help ensure that this is the choice you would like to make. You can also obtain legal advice and guidance on your adoption plan.
The Best Gift Ever!
Recently, I had the opportunity to visit with a beautiful young woman to catch-up on her life. Colleen shared with me that she had recently graduated from college and was beginning her new career. The sparkle in her eyes exemplified the pride she felt in her accomplishments. She was most excited to have her own place and to start her life without sharing the refrigerator and bathroom time with her roommates. Decorating her home was the best!
Colleen also shared about her recent “slushy” visit with her little boy, Cole. Going to the park and getting a “slushy” was the perfect day! Spending time pushing him in the swing and reading stories on the blanket filled her heart with joy. Only a few words were spoken, but the depth of the feelings and her expressions spoke volumes. Cole refers to her as “mommy angel” and he understand that he grew in her tummy and his mommy and daddy’s heart. He knows beyond a doubt that he is loved and cherished by both.
With a big smile, she shared with me what her visits and post-adoption contact meant to her. Her explanation began by letting me know how important it is for her and Cole’s mom to be together in their approach with Cole. Colleen said, “Cole knows that what his mom says goes and I will always support the decisions she makes – she is the parent.”
As she continued to share, her eyes filled and a little tear slipped out her eye. She said, “You know, these are tears of joy and love. I know 100% that Cole is right where he should be.” Colleen continued to share how the visits and pictures made her parents happy. They are always so happy to get a picture and an update of Cole. He has grown so much!!
Adoption is a community of those who care deeply about the joy and love of children. It is everyone working together to figure out the best way for a child to have the very most in life. It is finding a way for all involved to move past pain and hurt to love and fulfillment. Birth parents love for their children is a boundless, unselfish, all-encompassing love. Words do not justly describe this kind of love.
Adoption professionals and counselors can help make the journey in adoption be a journey that can be healthy for all and most of all, the child. There are very difficult times during this journey, but with love, support and guidance adoption can be a win for everyone.
Working with an adoption counselor to plan the very best contact both during and after an adoption plan will help lead to healthy lives for all involved. You can be assured that the gift of working out a plan for post-adoption contact is the best gift you can give your child. A child will love, honor and admire both his parents and birth parents for their insight and willingness to work together for his good and well-being. Contact Act of Love Adoptions today to find out more.
Baby Due in October 2015 – No Longer Available
This situation is for expectant mom, K, who is making an adoption plan for her Caucasian/Hispanic/African American baby BOY, that is due around the beginning of October 2015. K is searching for a local, Utah adoptive family that is active in the LDS faith and that already has a child. Her situation is requiring a significant amount of assistance with her living and care. K would like continued contact with the adoptive family through social media and to receive letters and pictures every two to three months along with a blog.
K reports that she began prenatal care in February 2015 and has been taking prenatal vitamins. She also reports she does not smoke or use any other substance other than drinking some beer during the pregnancy. By her report, she states she is free from any major illness or injury other than a stroke which may have been due to blood clots. She states that she is being monitored closely during this pregnancy. She reports that she currently has Medicaid. Act of Love cannot guarantee that her Medicaid will be active at the time of birth.
Available medical records and further non-identifying information and social health history will be made accessible to approved Outreach families that are interested in being considered for this potential adoption situation. To become an approved Outreach adoptive family and to receive further information regarding K’s situation, please contact Act of Love immediately at firstname.lastname@example.org. To get started, adoptive families can request an adoption packet from the Act of Love website at www.aactofloveadoptions.com and/or contact Act of Love at email@example.com.
Adoptive families that are home study ready and are interested in this situation, should complete the (6 pg) Application for Services in the adoption packet and be prepared to provide an approved home study and supporting documents to the home study. Adoptive family will also need to have a PDF of their adoption profile ready to be presented to K. Upon request, a complete outline of Outreach approval process can be provided. Application and approval in the Outreach Program DOES NOT require any fees or obligation until matched. All fees will be due at the time of match.
The AOL staff is available to answer any questions you have regarding adoption or the Outreach Program. It would be our pleasure to address your adoption needs. All Act of Love situations are presented to full-service adoptive families prior to presenting to Outreach adoptive families.
Act of Love Adoptions offers individual services to families and birth parents interested in completing an adoption, as well as agency assist and full adoption services. A free Adoption Orientation is offered, on the first Tuesday of every month beginning at 7:00 p.m. The next Adoption Orientation will be held on August 4, 2015 beginning at 7:00 p.m., at the Sandy offices. Please call and RSVP, if possible. The orientation offers a casual setting designed to provide educational information to adoptive families considering adoption along with information to experience a successful adoption before, during and after placement. Birth parents and adoptive families will be available to answer questions and share their stories. Call 801-572-1696 to receive further information on the orientation or to schedule a free, private informational appointment. AOL looks forward to being able to support you with your adoption needs.
July 1, 2015 – Born Baby Girl – Matched
This situation is for birth mom, A, who is making an adoption plan for her baby GIRL, born today, July 1, 2015. Her baby girl is Caucasian/Hispanic and weighed 6 lb 15.9 oz and measured 18 1/2″ with 7/9 apgar score. A is in Arizona and reports she has private insurance through her family. Baby will not be covered on her insurance. Act of Love cannot guarantee at this time that she has insurance coverage. This situation will be shown to full-service Act of Love families first that match this situation and A will be selecting the adoptive family for her baby. She is searching for a heterosexual married couple. A would like continued contact with the adoptive family through letters and pictures every two to three months. The family that is selected will need to be prepared to meet all agency requirements and travel to Arizona immediately.
A reports that she began prenatal care in April 2015 and has been taking prenatal vitamins. She also reports frequent drug use during the pregnancy, as well as, tobacco use of about one pack of cigarettes per day. She denies the use of alcohol. By her report, she states she is free from any major illness or injury.
Available medical records and further non-identifying information and social health history will be made accessible to approved Outreach families that are interested in being considered for this situation. For further information on becoming an approved Outreach adoptive family and to receive further information regarding A’s situation, along with available medical records, please contact Act of Love immediately at firstname.lastname@example.org. A desires to select an adoptive family quickly. To get started, adoptive families can request an adoption packet from the Act of Love website at www.aactofloveadoptions.com and/or contact Act of Love at email@example.com.
Adoptive families that are home study ready and are interested in this situation, should complete the (6 pg) Application for Services in the adoption packet and be prepared to provide an approved home study and supporting documents to the home study. Adoptive family will also need to have a PDF of their adoption profile ready to be presented to A. Upon request, a complete outline of Outreach approval process can be provided. Application and approval in the Outreach Program DOES NOT require any fees or obligation until matched. All fees will be due at the time of match.
The AOL staff is available to answer any questions you have regarding adoption or the Outreach Program and address your adoption needs. All Act of Love situations are presented to full-service adoptive families prior to presenting to Outreach adoptive families.
Act of Love Adoptions offers individual services to families and birth parents interested in completing an adoption, as well as full-services. A free Adoption Orientation is offered, on the first Tuesday of every month beginning at 7:00 p.m. The next Adoption Orientation will be held on July 7, 2015 beginning at 7:00 p.m., at the Sandy offices. The orientation offers a casual setting designed to provide educational information to adoptive families considering adoption along with information to experience a successful adoption before, during and after placement. Birth parents and adoptive families will be available to answer questions and share their experience. Call 801-572-1696 to receive further information on the orientation or to schedule a free, private informational appointment. AOL looks forward to being able to support you with your adoption needs.