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Understanding the Adoption Process

unnamed[1]Are you debating about whether or not to place your child with an adoptive family? If so, you should fully understand how the process works. This will ultimately help you make a better decision and feel more confident about placing your baby for adoption.

Step 1: Deciding if it’s Right for Your Baby
The first step is deciding on whether or not adoption is right for your baby. Things like financial insecurity or physical inability are among the main reasons why most birth parents choose adoption.

Step 2: Choosing Between an Open or Closed Adoption
Now you’ll want to choose what type of adoption plan is right for you. You can choose an open adoption, which allows you to maintain open communication with the adoptive parents, or a closed adoption, which keeps your identity hidden. Both have their pros and cons.

Step 3: Choosing the Right Adoptive Family
Depending on where you live, you may have hundreds of potential adoptive families as candidates for your baby. Make sure that you choose an adoptive family who you believe is going to provide your baby with the best upbringing possible.

Step 4: Getting to Know the Adoptive Family
In an open adoption, it’s often customary to speak openly with the adoptive parents regarding your expectations for the process. This will not only help you feel more comfortable about your decision, but it will also leave a window open for potential communication between you and your baby later on down the road.

Step 5: Finalizing the Process
In most states, you’ll need to wait before signing the relinquishment documents that are officially going to transfer the rights to the adoptive parents. Throughout this time, feel free to maintain open communication with the adoptive parents as well as further decide if this is something that you really want for your child.

It has been two years since I placed my son for adoption

It has been two years since I placed my son for adoption, and my boys, Edward and Matthias, seven and six years old respectively, still ask me when their baby brother is going to come home. While it is rather endearing that they want to play with (or perhaps just boss around) their brother, I find it saddening and even frustrating at times. When I was pregnant with Matthew, I explained to them that when the baby in my belly comes out, he will go live with his mom and dad. He will not be coming home with Mommy. Apparently, they must think it is only a temporary situation.

The boys have two other siblings from their dad. They know how this whole baby thing works. I am not sure if they just do not understand, or perhaps I have not explained it properly or thoroughly. It sucks sometimes to explain to my boys that their brother is not coming home with us. It really hurts at times to explain that he will not be spending the night with us or going to the park. It is a reminder of the things that I have missed and will miss from Matthew’s life; it is also painful to see those brief moments of sadness on my boys’ faces when I tell them their brother is not coming. I have imagined us all being together, a family, many times in the last two years. It is pretty obvious they imagine that as well. They occasionally like to talk about what they would do if Matthew were with us. It sounds like they think about him more than I give them credit for.

One of the things that gets to me is that they really try to show him love. We each have these turtles, which we all call babies that were gifts from Matthew’s parents. Matthew has one, too. They like to show love to the babies because they think Matthew can feel those hugs and kisses. It is really sweet and touching, and is a reflection of good parenting.

Kids are resilient, but in those moments when they are so eager about having baby brother come over, I wonder how much pain they experience from not having their baby brother around. I know they love him, but as kids, they do not yet fully understand adoption or the impact of losing a sibling through adoption. They have each other now, and in the future, hopefully, they will have Matthew. Their reactions to and questions about Matthew reaffirm my decision to place him for adoption was the right one because I see how much more love there is in the world for all three of my boys.

ACT OF LOVE ADOPTIONS NEW DISCLOSURE OF FEES AND EXPENSES TO ADOPTIVE PARENTS

Act of Love’s new Disclosure of Separate Fees and Expenses will provide adoptive families who have been matched with a birth parent to engage the professional staff at Act of Love to provide individual and personalized services.

The decision to adopt a child can be one of the most personal and emotional decisions a couple faces. It is a joyous and wonderful path, but the journey includes many questions and uncertainties. That is why having a compassionate, experienced adoption professional who can confidently walk adoptive parents through the process and be with them every single step of the way will bring security and peace of mind.

Act of Love has recently added a new fee disclosure to the current adoption program. The new Disclosure of Separate Fees and Expenses provides an opportunity for adoptive families who have been matched with a birth parent to engage the professional staff at Act of Love, to provide individual services such as; counseling, coordination and relinquishment for the birth parent. Act of Love can also provide a home study, home study update, Inter-State Compact Services and post-placement services for the adoptive family. Act of Love understands adoptive families and birth parents may be searching on their own to find each other and the need for individual services to be offered.

Act of Love Adoptions is a Utah based agency that has remained consistent with its mission since 1993, providing personalized full adoption services throughout the US to help adoptive parents realize their dream of holding their newborn child in their arms and welcoming the newest member to their family. Well-known in the adoption community for sound, ethical business practices and operations, Act of Love provides a peace of mind that the adoption is on solid legal ground and can lead to the joy of a child.

Act of Love is one of the most respected adoption agencies in the US, with an excellent record of operating for more than two decades as a charitable, non-profit licensed adoption agency. Act of Love is able to offer adoptive parents and birth parents a dedicated staff with extensive personal adoption experience, who understands the joys and challenges in adoption, as many walked the same adoption path. With over 35 years of hands-on adoption experience in infant adoptions, Act of Love is consistently recommended for the highest quality of emotional support, services and one-on-one care from the moment a parent makes that first inquiry to the many questions which arise years after the child has been embraced by his or her new family.

Act of Love Adoptions offers a comfortable, intimate experience allowing clients to connect in person, on the phone, via Skype & also provides free orientations and private individual meetings. The caseworkers and staff members understand the importance of the relationship created with clients to help guide them through this life changing experience every step of the process. By maintaining a smaller, more intimate agency this allows for the time to get to know clients from the application process through post-placement, provide the important counseling and guidance, support and services to create a healthy adoption plan and long-lasting relationships that will benefit the child, as well as birth parents and adoptive families for years to come.

Most prospective adoptive parents probably have a flood of questions and emotions running through their mind. Finding the right adoption professional with the knowledge, experience and skills to help them navigate the process is vital to the type of journey they will experience. Offering personal one-on-one attention to clients, Act of Love can guide clients through the unknowns of the adoption process and help to ease the anxiety and emotions that can be a part of the adoption journey. Act of Love is usually able to offer shorter waiting periods for infant adoptions, expert open adoption guidance and crafting of post-adoption contact, excellent care for birth parents and is often complimented for taking excellent care of the physical, as well as emotional needs of birth parents both day and night.

For Act of Love, this is more than just placing a child in a home, but in building a life-long relationship. Act of Love is proud of its legacy and the testimonials from many clients that allow potential clients the ability to gather information and consider their options in an adoption professional.Act of Love provides references from previous clients and testimonials can be viewed on the Act of Love Adoptions website https://www.aactofloveadoptions.com and the My Adoption Agencies website https://www.myadoptionagencies.com.

The expertise of adoption professionals that have experienced the joys and challenges of placing more than 1,000 children in the arms of loving parents, assisted birth parents to complete an adoption plan and move forward with a positive future is paramount in the type of adoption journey birth parents and adoptive families can experience. The staff at Act of Love truly cares and works hard each day to provide best practice, compassionate services. With five of the original employees and well over half the other staff members having been employed by Act of Love nearing 15 years, the professional staff is truly invested in its clients and has the stability, knowledge and community relationships to lead birth parents and adoptive families through the adoption journey with confidence.

The long-standing, established network of professionals throughout the US lends to the ability of Act of Love to facilitate adoptions all over the US. Act of Love is affiliated with American Academy of Adoption Attorneys, Utah Adoption Council, National Council for Adoption, affiliations with a number of religious organizations such as, LDS Social Services, Catholic Charities, Bethany Christian Services and many existing connections with numerous other agencies and adoption professionals around the US.

CEO and Founder, Kathy Kunkel, was recognized by National Council for Adoption for the “I Chose Adoption” campaign in 2013 for her assistance and expertise in launching the campaign. In 2004, Ms. Kunkel was also honored with the Congressional Angel in Adoption Award by Mr. Jim Matheson and the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute in Washington, D.C.

Along with full-service adoptions, Act of Love offers services for home studies, post-placement services and individual adoption services to help complete an adoption plan. To receive further information regarding the services Act of Love Adoptions can offer, contact the agency by telephone at 801-572-1696 or 1-888-767-7740 or email at adoptions(at)aactofloveadoptions(dot)com. Visit the website at https://www.aactofloveadoptions.com and Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/aactoflove.

Act of Love Adoptions is committed and focused on making a lasting difference in the lives of others and offering choices in full-service adoption planning. Adoptive families and birth parents have the choices in all aspects of the adoption including; open and closed adoptions, type of family, choosing religious affiliation and hospital planning. For the birth parent, to the parents and every single child, Act of Love is an agency that will be there every step of the way.

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Born Baby Boy – Matched

Birth parent B is requesting that Act of Love Adoption Agency assist her in her search for an adoptive family for her born African American baby boy. Baby was born on Friday, March 27, 2015 at twenty-nine weeks and is currently in the NICU. He is reported to be doing well. Adoptive family will need to be prepared to be with baby in hospital until baby is able to discharge. She is seeking an open adoption to include pictures and letters sent through the agency and to meet the adoptive family around the time of placement and during the babies hospital stay. B is open to in-person contact with the family following placement.

B reports that she is healthy and free of any major medical illness or injury. She also reports that she has started prenatal care and that she currently has Medicaid. Act of Love cannot guarantee that her Medicaid will be current at the time of birth or cover all medical expenses. B does not report any alcohol, tobacco or drugs.

Home studied adoptive families interested in this situation should contact Act of Love Adoptions at outreach@aactofloveadoptions.com. Adoptive family will need to be prepared to complete an Application for Services, provide an original signed notarized copy of the home study along with supporting documentation to meet agency requirements. Applying for the Outreach Program DOES NOT require agency fees prior to a match. Outreach families at Act of Love will be presented with situations that do not match with the full service adoptive families. For more information on the Outreach Program contact Act of Love Adoption Agency at outreach@aactofloveadoptions.com or call 801-572-1696.

Act of Love Adoptions offers individual services to families and birth parents to help complete an adoption, as well as full-services. A free Adoption Orientation is offered, on the first Tuesday of every month beginning at 7:00 p.m. The next Adoption Orientation will be held on May 5, 2015, in the Sandy offices. The orientation is a casual, educational meeting designed to provide adoptive families with the tools needed to complete a successful adoption before, during and after placement. Call 801-572-1696 to receive further information on the orientation or to schedule a no-cost, private informational appointment. It would be our pleasure to support your adoption needs.

Caucasian Baby Girl Due May 2015

Birth parents C & M are making an adoption plan for their Caucasian baby girl due the middle of May 2015. C & M have requested Act of Love Adoption Agency assist them in their search for an adoptive family that meets their parameters. C & M are seeking an adoptive family WITHOUT CHILDREN. They would like to have an “active” adoptive family that is able to provide “emotionally and financially” for their child. They would like pictures and letters to be sent through the agency and would like the amount of post-adoption contact to be decided by the adoptive family. C & M would like to meet the adoptive family around birth and desire for the adoptive family to begin bonding with the baby right away.

Birth mom reports that she is healthy and has not experienced any major illness, injury or developmental problems during her life. Birth mom also currently reports no use of illegal drugs, alcohol or tobacco and she has not used any substances during her pregnancy. Her report includes some “situational and post-partum” depression, along with a family history of Bipolar Disorder. Prenatal care began in January and reports she is taking prenatal vitamins. Available medical records and further non-identifying information and social health history will be made accessible to approved Outreach families. To become an approved Outreach adoptive family and to receive further information and medical records, please contact Act of Love at outreach@aactofloveadoptions.com.

If you are a home studied adoptive family and interested in this situation, contact Act of Love Adoptions at outreach@aactofloveadoptions.com. Interested adoptive families will need to complete an Application for Services, provide an original signed notarized copy of the home study along with supporting documentation to meet agency requirements. Families applying for the Outreach Program DO NOT pay any agency fees prior to a match and are not obligated by completing an application. For more information on the Outreach Program, contact Act of Love Adoption Agency at outreach@aactofloveadoptions.com or call 801-572-1696. All situations are presented to full-service adoptive families prior to presenting to Outreach adoptive families.

Act of Love Adoptions offers individual services to families and birth parents to help complete an adoption, as well as full-services. A free Adoption Orientation is offered, on the first Tuesday of every month beginning at 7:00 p.m. The next Adoption Orientation will be held on May 5, 2015, in the Sandy offices. The orientation is a casual, educational meeting designed to provide adoptive families with the tools needed to complete a successful adoption before, during and after placement. Call 801-572-1696 to receive further information on the orientation or to schedule a no-cost, private informational appointment. It would be our pleasure to support your adoption needs.

Baby Due in May 2015

Birth parent B has requested Act of Love Adoption Agency assist her in searching for an adoptive family to adopt her Caucasian baby boy due the middle of May. She would like to have an open adoption to include pictures and letters sent through email until the child reaches 18. Birth parent B is looking for a family that is open minded and open to letting her child make choices as he grows-up. She would also like to meet the adoptive family she selects prior to delivery and again around the time of delivery and placement. B is asking for face-to-face visits with the adoptive family and child around the child’s 1st and 3rd birthday. She is open to additional visits at the adoptive families discretion during the child’s lifetime.

B reports being healthy other than back injuries from falling and that she has been off and on pain medications since 2013 for pain. She reports starting prenatal care in November 2014 and that she is taking prenatal vitamins. She stated that she did use drugs during the first ten weeks of her pregnancy and she smokes one pack of cigarettes every couple of days. B currently has Utah Medicaid and medical records are available. To become an approved Outreach adoptive family and to receive further information and medical records, please contact Act of Love at outreach@aactofloveadoptions.com.

Home studied adoptive families interested in this situation should contact Act of Love Adoptions at outreach@aactofloveadoptions.com. Adoptive family will need to be prepared to complete an Application for Services, provide an original signed notarized copy of the home study along with supporting documentation to meet agency requirements. Applying for the Outreach Program DOES NOT require agency fees prior to a match. For more information on the Outreach Program contact Act of Love Adoption Agency at outreach@aactofloveadoptions.com or call 801-572-1696. All situations are presented to full-service adoptive families prior to presenting to Outreach adoptive families.

Act of Love offers individual services to help complete an adoption, as well as full-services. Act of Love Adoptions offers a free Adoption Orientation on the first Tuesday of every month beginning at 7:00 p.m. The next Adoption Orientation will be held on May 5, 2015, in the Sandy offices. Call 801-572-1696 to receive further information on the orientation or to schedule a no-cost, private informational appointment. It would be our pleasure to support your adoption needs.

Growing up I never imagined myself being a single parent

SkylarGrowing up I never imagined myself as a single parent. As a small child, I thought that I would marry a wonderful man, and we would have a few children. Around high school the idea of children was no longer appealing. Then I found myself pregnant at 19 years old and in my second year of college. Looking back, it is a bit ironic that I suggested to my boyfriend that we place the baby for adoption. He would not even entertain the idea. In the end, we decided to raise our son together. When that decision was made, I thought that he and I would eventually marry, and we would raise our son together as a team.

Well, that did not happen either! We now have two boys together and are no longer a couple. When Edward and Matthias were babies (they are 17 ½ months apart), the full responsibility fell on me. There was no financial support until after Matthias was about two years old. I had to use all my vacation time to take care of them when they were sick and could not go to daycare. All of my vacation time was spent at doctors’ offices and taking care of sick babies. My mother helped me quite a bit with picking them up from daycare. For a while, I was going to school full time and working full time. There was literally no respite. No breaks. No down time. No time to decompress. No time to take care of myself.
Being a single parent is no joke.

The stress of knowing that if you call in just one more time you will lose your job, and along with that health insurance for yourself and your children, it is enormous pressure. It is a terrible feeling to even think about not being able to care for your children.
When Matthias was about one year old, I finally had a mental breakdown. My mind just could not handle being superwoman! At that time I told the boys’ dad that he was going to start helping. And he did! He took them when I needed him to. He became more involved over time. Today, we have a great arrangement where we switch custody every week. He gets them for a week; I get them for a week. It is great! Things are great now, and sure, the struggles are all worth it. I love my boys, all my boys, more than anything.

Knowing all that, however, was a huge part of the reason I placed Matthew for adoption. I know what it is to be a single parent to a baby. I know that babies require more than what I was able to provide. Finances alone would have been a nightmare. Add to that the emotional and mental toll of the situation in general-having Matthew’s father potentially a part of our lives…
Adoption was the best choice for both Matthew and me.

5 Things Every Birth Mother Wants Adoptive Parents to Know

1. This Is Hard

Being a birthmother is super difficult. Adoptive parents are often met with praise and admiration in society, but birth mothers don’t have the same experience. After adoption I not only have to deal with issues of bereavement, but also manage my status in society as a woman who placed her child. I struggle regularly with whether I should share my story or how to explain my gap in employment during my pregnancy.

2. Your Understanding Means The World

I cannot express how meaningful it is to hear encouraging words from my chosen adoptive family. We’ve become close in a way that they not only give me updates on my son, but ask for regular updates on me as a person. It adds another dimension of respect and appreciation to our relationship. I feel that the more they know about me, the better my family will be able to represent me to my son.

3. Stick to your promises

I realize how lucky I am that I never have to ask for pictures. My family agreed to regularly send me updates at certain milestones. They have gone above and beyond this commitment. I can’t imagine the discomfort and panic it would cause if this promise was ignored. Getting to know a family does not happen over years, it’s only a few months. Standing by their commitment to share pictures and letters helps to validate my decision to choose adoption and the adoptive family.

4. Things Change

Originally, my adoptive family and I developed a pretty loose open adoption plan. We didn’t decide on regular visits and our agreement on pictures exchange was every few months. However, things change. I talk with my adoptive family on a monthly basis and they send pictures WHENEVER he does something cute! I love it! I’ve also planned outings with the family on numerous occasions and I have been blessed to hold and watch my son grow.

5. Don’t Be Afraid To Reach Out

I think what it comes down to is communication. I would not have been able to see the bond with my adoptive family develop if they didn’t initiate a more intimate relationship. It is important to be respectful of space, and for a while the adoptive family and I edged around the idea of more regular communication and visits. But they went out on a limb and just asked. I so appreciate that now. I am thankful that they regularly reach out to me to plan visits and send all the cute pictures and photos.

Adoption
is An Act of Love

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