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African American Baby Girl Due in June

Act of Love has been contacted to help find a family for an African American baby girl that is due around the middle of June. Baby will be born in Utah. Birthmom, M, would like a Christian adoptive family that is willing to continue communication with her through email twice yearly until the child reaches age 18. She is open to further contact by email at the adoptive family’s request.

Birthmom reports that she is healthy and free from any major medical illness or injuries. Birthmom reports limited prenatal care in the beginning of her pregnancy, but is currently receiving routine prenatal care. She reports no present or past use of illegal drugs, alcohol or tobacco.

If you are a home study approved adoptive couple that meets the requirements above and are interested in being considered for placement of this baby, please contact Act of Love Adoptions at outreach@aactofloveadoptions.com to receive further information regarding the Outreach approval process. If you have not started the home study process, but are a local Utah family or your home study will be finished immediately, you may contact Act of Love at outreach@aactofloveadoptions.com to possibly be considered for this situation. Only approved Act of Love Outreach adoptive families can receive further information and details available for this situation. The Application for Services in the Outreach Program does need to be completed, but does NOT require a fee until match.

Adoptive family will need to be prepared to complete an Application for Services, provide an original signed notarized copy of the home study along with supporting documentation and meet other agency requirements to become approved for Outreach situations. The Application for Services in the Outreach Program does NOT require agency fees until you are matched. For more information on the Outreach Program, contact Act of Love Adoption Agency at outreach@aactofloveadoptions.com.

Adoption for parents in their 40’s

As they say, “Life begins at 40”. But can parenting begin at 40? Absolutely! Just ask the parents who embarked on the adventure called parenting and who bucked the notion of being “too old to be parents”.

Some of these are first-time parents while others have grown children. Some have chosen to put off parenting towards their latter years, as they pursued careers and other interests. Still some have struggled with infertility and have just recently explored the possibility of adoption. Whatever their circumstances, they have joyfully jumped into playgroups, diaper changing sessions, baby bottles and sweet potato and carrot mashing just about the time their contemporaries have started making plans towards retirement and the empty nest.

It is gratifying to know that domestic and international adoption programs welcome older parents-to-be. One of the reasons is that with today’s medical innovations, people are healthier and have longer life expectancies. Some older parents also attest that since they are “older”, they have also become wiser, more mature and relaxed than younger parents. Those who have already raised kids have years of experience under their belt. Much more, older parents are able to provide a more financially stable environment when they have accumulated enough savings, are earning a stable income and paid off a considerable portion of their major debt (i.e. the mortgage, insurance policies, etc.).

However, we must note that parenting during one’s middle age brings with it its own set of challenges. As their age advances into the 50s, parents will have to grapple with menopause, dwindling energy levels and even health issues.

Here are some tips for parents who made A Act of Love adoption in their latter years:
– Consider the adoption route you want to take. You can choose between domestic adoptions (such as the ones facilitated by A Act of Love Adoptions) and international adoptions. Remain open to changes during the adoption process, recognizing that there may be delays with the placement.
– Think about your age in each of your child’s developmental stages and then consider what would be the ideal age of the child you desire to adopt. If you feel you have the determination and commitment to adopt an infant, feel free to present yourself as a would-be parent. However, consider the fact that your knees and back may not be as fit to do the “baby dance” during the wee hours when baby can’t sleep. If this is the case, you can consider adopting a child that is past babyhood and even the terrible twos.
– Start moves towards keeping fit. There are would-be parents who went into some level of physical training to help make sure that their bodies are prepared for the rigors of parenthood. As you are waiting for news about your adoption application, it may be a perfect time to start dusting off that treadmill to up your energy levels. Remember, you should also physically prepare for international travel if you are adopting from another country. This may entail long hours of travel often in not-so-comfortable rides, exotic and unusual food, drastic change in temperatures you are used to and so on.
– Communicate with key members of the family. Your grown children, if you have any, may have mixed feelings with the adoption. They may start comparing your parenting style, availability and commitment and may feel like they’ve had the short end of the stick. It’s best to sit down with them and encourage them to open up about their feelings so that you can start any resolutions that need to be done.
– Compensate energetic activities with more quiet activities. If your energy levels are an issue, take every opportunity to spend quiet times with your child, reading a book, snuggling in the couch or creating arts and crafts. You can also exchange play dates with younger moms, so that she can deal with activities that require more energy while you host the more sedate activities.
– Take into account other responsibilities you have towards other family members. Making an addition to your family at this point may pile up on current responsibilities you may have. Are you taking care of elderly parents? Is there a possibility that some of your grown children may move back to your home? Consider all responsibilities carefully so that you know you can fulfill your commitments as a parent to a young child without ignoring other familial responsibilities.
– Work with adoption specialists rather than going at it on your own. Adoption agencies such as A Act of Love Adoptions or adoption specialists have extensive experience and can help provide you with invaluable advice. However, carefully check and read the contract to know what to expect.
– Make concrete preparations for the future. This includes appointing your child’s guardian and updating your will, insurance policy and health insurance coverage to include your adopted child.
– Prepare for the possibility of your being ill or incapacitated. As we get older we are more prone to sickness. Breaking a leg or getting the flu involves longer times of recovery. Heart attacks, spikes in your blood sugar or other health issues loom closer than ever. Be sure to have arrangements for your young child in case you become temporarily sick or incapacitated.
– Stay young. Don’t be surprised or offended when people ask, “Is he your grandchild?” Rather, face such questions with a friendly smile and simply prove that you can be as good a parent as anyone in their 20s or 30s. Keep yourself updated with the times. No matter if you are surrounded by parents who are younger than you at PTA meetings or at your children’s parties, staying young at heart could make all the difference.

Addressing Some Fears and Concerns About Open Adoption

More and more, birthparents and would-be parents are choosing open adoption as part of their birth or adoption plans. However, there are still lingering fears and concerns about open adoption so that some birthparents or would-be parents are reluctant to go that route, especially for domestic infant adoptions. According to a 2008 study by the National Survey of Adoptive Parents, of the 2,089 interviewed, 68% reported that there was some level of contact after the adoption was finalized.

To help parents make a more informed decision whether to choose an open adoption, semi-open adoption or a confidential adoption, let’s take a look at some fears and how these are addressed:
– Open adoption presents too many uncertainties. Yes, choosing an open adoption is not without its risks. It is important for would-be parents to be aware of the risks that they may not be chosen by a birthparent as soon as they wanted, the birthparents may change their mind and so on. That way, would-be parents go into the adoption process with realistic expectations. But these risks can be significantly reduced when you work with an adoption agency or specialist that has already evaluated the birthparent’s situation and birth plan and to match the birthparent with the appropriate applicants for adoption. This lays a strong foundation for an open and legally binding adoption.
– You are not really clear where the parental rights of the birthparents and would-be parents begin and end. When working with a reputable adoption agency such as A Act of Love Adoptions, both birthparents and would-be parents are informed in detail as to what their rights are. If you are a birthparent, it should be clear what it means to choose adoption and terminating parental rights. If you are a would-be parent, you should also be clear about the risks, as well as the responsibilities to expect during the finalization of the adoption and even after it has been finalized. Before the finalization of the adoption, both parties can agree in advance as to the level of contact and any boundaries or limitations both desire. What’s important is that both parties are coordinating with each other about how the relationship will evolve.
– Open adoption can cost an arm and a leg. Fees vary depending on the adoption agency and the kind of adoption you have. Domestic infant adoptions may be expensive, but so are international adoptions. Scrutinize each fee charged. For A Act of Love Adoptions, the fees will invariably be for services provided, which include guidance during the home study, as well as pre- and post-adoptive support.
– Wouldn’t it be emotionally taxing and confusing for the birth parents and the family, especially for the child? It really depends on how the situation is handled. It can actually be heart-warming and reassuring for the birthparent to see that they have made the right choice because the child is loved and thriving. This can help immensely in the birthparents grieving, healing and moving on process. It can be reassuring for the child to see that he has both sets of parents who deeply love him and he doesn’t have to wonder about his birthparents. It can also be an enriching experience for the whole family as they forge stronger relationships with each other and celebrate the way they have built a family by recognizing each one’s part in that family. It can be helpful to get post-adoption counseling to help you thresh out any issues and concerns you may have with regards to contact between the family and birth family.
– Will the child eventually decide to be with the birthparents when he reaches adulthood? The likelihood of this happening is small, especially when parents have done their best to bond with the child and show that they are a family no matter how they came to be one.
– It’s easier to have a successful adoption with an open adoption than with a confidential one. This is not really an issue and is more of a pre-conceived notion. It is nevertheless important to keep in mind that with adoption, it is the welfare of the child that is the concern, not the ease by which one can have the adoption finalized. An open adoption addresses the child’s deep need to know about his roots – his family and cultural background.

Lucky!

I am so lucky to have had the honor to help introduce a beautiful birth mom, Lily, to the adoptive family she had chosen for her baby. The experience was so beautiful and very touching – beyond being able to express in words.

At first, I think we were both a little nervous! When I picked- up Lily she was so cute. She asked if she looked okay and if she was over-dressed. She looked beautiful, but was visibly nervous and anxious. As we drove to the restaurant she expressed how excited she was to meet Matt & Terry. For the past couple of days, she had been imagining what their meeting might be like and thinking about all of the questions she wanted to ask them.

When we arrived at the restaurant, Matt & Terry were waiting with big smiles on their face. They greeted Lily with warm hugs and made her feel so comfortable and loved. It was obvious from the first minute we sat down that Terry and Lily already had a special connection.

Lily had brought the ultrasounds of the baby and shared them with Matt & Terry. They were so surprised that Lily had thought to bring the ultrasounds and share such a beautiful part of her pregnancy with them. Tears of joy and laugher were shared.

After sharing the ultrasound, Lily expressed her wishes for Matt & Terry to be with the baby right away in the nursery. She wanted them to know that the baby should be with them as they are the parents and she did not want to interfere with that special time.

Again, we all had tears in our eyes and were amazed at Lily’s strength and courage. She expressed how confident she was in her decision and how meeting them had made her feel even more certain about her decision to choose adoption and Matt & Terry as her baby’s family.

I feel so blessed to have been able to be a part of this beautiful experience. I can only imagine how they must have all felt! Adoption is such a beautiful experience and these brave and courageous birth parents are true Angels!

Adoption Tax Credit

Please help The Adoption Tax Credit Working Group’s Executive Committee spread the message below to help protect the adoption tax credit. The adoption tax credit assists many children to find permanent, loving homes. Please help these children and families by contacting your Members of Congress.

The Adoption Tax Credit Working Group’s Executive Committee:
American Academy of Adoption Attorneys, Adopt America Network, Christian Alliance for Orphans,
Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute (Secretariat), Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption,
Donaldson Adoption Institute, Joint Council on International Children’s Services,
National Council For Adoption, North American Council on Adoptable Children,
RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association, ShowHope, and Voice for Adoption.

Grassroots Advocacy Campaign

ALERT – BREAKING NEWS: Last Wednesday, February 26, Chairman Camp of the Ways and Means Committee released his much anticipated tax reform proposal and it eliminates the adoption tax credit. This breaking news makes our advocacy efforts that much more critical. Now that an actual legislative proposal has suggested eliminating the credit altogether, we need to ensure that every single Member of Congress hears from us about its importance. Members will only be compelled to fight for its protection if they hear real stories from all of you.

Key Message: Outreach to your legislators is the only way to protect the adoption tax credit.
Members of Congress want to hear from you – their constituents – about what matters to you. Legislators only need to hear from 20 constituents about an issue before it becomes important to them. Remember, Members of Congress are people and oftentimes it is a personal story about why a law is needed that motivates them to act. They also understand that they are there to represent the people of their district. They want to know how a particular policy will affect those they are called to serve.
Highlighted FAQ: When will Congress vote on the Adoption Tax Credit Refundability Act (H.R. 2144/S.1056)?
• An individual vote on this bill is unlikely to happen. However, the adoption tax credit will remain part of the broader tax reform discussions and is now particularly vulnerable given the proposal to eliminate it. The more Congressional co-sponsors these bills have, the more likely the adoption tax credit will receive favorable attention in these discussions in Congress. Members of Congress are hearing daily from paid lobbyists about other tax related interests, and will have to make tough decisions about which tax policies are their ultimate priorities. Let’s not let the adoption tax credit become a victim because Members of Congress haven’t heard enough about its importance to their constituents! Don’t delay. Ask your Members of Congress to cosponsor H.R. 2144/S.1056 and share their responses here:info@adoptiontaxcredit.org.
For more advocacy tips visit: https://adoptiontaxcredit.org/advocate
Call to Action: Initial Emails to Your Members of Congress – Figure out who your three Members of Congress (2 Senators and 1 Representative) are by using senate.gov and house.gov. Using their websites, figure out the best way to contact each of them (often it will be through an email or a form on their website). Email each of them and explain the importance of adoption and ask for their support in protecting the credit. Use our sample template letter (here) as a starting point, but be sure to personalize it. Speak from the heart and share your story about why the ATC is important to children, your family, or others in your life. Provide the link to www.adoptiontaxcredit.org in your email so they can find additional information.

Basic Adoption FAQs for Prospective Parents

The process of adopting has many elements involved. The adoption process can seem like you are traversing a maze with many questions running in your mind once you start considering adopting a child.

Here is a list of frequently-asked questions for A Act of Love Adoptions to guide you:

What is adoption?

Adoption is a legal process where the parental rights of the birthparents are transferred permanently to the prospective parents. In short, the child legally becomes your child in terms of rights and responsibilities. As a parent, you are the one responsible for providing a loving and nurturing environment for the child to grow and thrive.

Are we eligible to adopt?

People who have successfully adopted include:
– Those who are single, married or divorced
– Those who already have children or who are childless
– Those who have a disability but can still prove their ability to take care of the child
– Those who vary in age, based on their ability to parent a child and their support system

This list just shows that there is a diverse range of people who are eligible to adopt. You are eligible to adopt for as long as:
– You are able to provide a stable, safe and loving environment
– You do not have a criminal or child abuse record
– You have a good support system and guardianship established

From where can we adopt with Act of Love?
You can adopt:
– Children born in the country (domestic adoption)

How does one start adopting?

– Contact A Act of Love Adoptions and a friendly adoption professional will be available to answer your questions and get you started.
– Agency adoption with full-services from Act of Love Adoptions
– Indentified adoptions where two parties already know each other and the birthparent is making a designated adoption directly naming the prospective parents to adopt their child can be handled by Act of Love Adoption Agency
– Independent Adoptions where one or both of parties is working with another adoption professional
– Agency Assist Adoptions where Act of Love may be assisting with either the birthparent or adoptive family

What do we need to prepare?

– Your profile. This is how you introduce yourselves to prospective birthparents.
– Legal papers. This includes birth and marriage certificates, tax returns, medical clearances, references and background clearances.
– Your heart and home for the home study. The home study will delve into your reasons for adopting, as well as, whether you are physically, emotionally and psychologically prepared to adopt. The home study will also investigate any safety and health risks in your home.

What costs does the adoption entail?

The total expenses involved in the adoption will depend on the kind of adoption you choose. Expenses may cover various aspects such as an adoption agency fees, service fees for counseling and casework, legal costs, living expenses, medical costs and travel costs, other.

According to the Child Welfare Information Gateway website, the ranges of expenses you may expect from various types of adoptions are:
– Foster care adoption: $0 to $2,500
– Adoption through a private adoption agency such as A Act of Love Adoptions: $5,000 to $40,000
– International adoption: $8,000 to $40,000

It is also important to remember that the cost of the adoption will depend on your particular situation. Medical expenses may not be included in the total adoption and the adoption may exceed the ranges above.

A Quick Guide to Building an Adoption Plan for Birthparents

A Act of Love Adoptions offer birthparents the opportunity to make informed decisions about their adoption plan with the help of counseling. They also have a wide range of choices available in making an adoption plan. It can be liberating to know that you have control over these areas of an unplanned pregnancy and also to know that you have help to make these choices for yourself.

Here are a few simple steps and issues you need to think about with regards to choosing adoption for your baby:

– Decide if adoption is the choice for you. The bottom line when choosing adoption is that you want not just what is best for yourself, but ultimately what is best for your baby. At this point, consider whether adoption is a choice you can commit to for yourself and your child. Of course, you can still change your plans during the process. You can seek counseling to provide you with guidance as to whether you are ready to be a parent at this time in your life. You should also evaluate the resources you have in terms of finances, as well as, emotional and moral support. Evaluating these areas will help you make the decision you need to make.

– Choose an adoption agency. Once you have decided on adoption for your unplanned pregnancy, the next step is to choose who can help you throughout the adoption process. There are instances where birthparents choose to work directly with prospective parents without going through an agency adoption or professional. Usually, this is ideal when you personally know the family beforehand. For adoptions where the birthparent and the prospective parents don’t know each other, a reputable adoption agency such as A Act of Love Adoptions is highly recommended. When choosing the agency, it is important to consider if the agency:

Holds the necessary licenses and accreditation from all the concerned government bodies
Is committed to your overall wellbeing and best interest
Carefully screens the prospective parents
Is staffed by caring professionals who are easy to contact and will help you with your needs
Enables you to build your adoption plan according to your personal choices and preferences

– Develop a support system that you can lean on during the pregnancy and afterwards. One advantage of working with an adoption agency is that they provide many resources and support for you. Aside from counseling, you can gain support from the team supporting your adoption and from your loved ones and friends.

– Decide on the type of adoption you want. Do you desire to build a relationship with the child and his family? Although open adoptions (where there is some contact with the birthparent and the family) are becoming more common, some birthparents choose a confidential adoption (where both birthparents and prospective parents do not plan to make contact with each other after the placement). Selecting a closed adoption might be chosen because birthparents feel they can move forward with their life easier than if they had contact. If you do choose an open adoption, you can set the parameters with regards to the level of contact you would like. Will it involve occasional letters and pictures from the family or do you want regular visits and phone calls?

– Choose the adoptive family. If you opt for an open adoption, the adoption agency will have a set of pre-screened prospective parents for your child. You will be happy with the choices available! With confidential adoptions, you can still set the criteria by which the adoption agency will use in choosing the prospective family.

– Secure financial support for the pregnancy. Please note that in most states birthparents can receive pregnancy related expenses. In addition, the law governing financial assistance for birthparents will vary across the country. However, as a birthparent, you may be entitled to receive help with the expenses related to the pregnancy. This can include medical expenses (medicines, doctor’s fees and hospital fees), reasonable living expenses (such as the groceries, food, rent and transportation costs), as well as, counseling and legal fees.

– Plan your delivery and hospital stay. What kind of delivery do you want to have? Would you like loved ones or friends in the hospital? Would you like the prospective parents to be there with you? Would you like to spend some time with the baby during your hospital stay?

Born Caucasian Baby Boy – Matched

Birth parents, D&H have contacted Act of Love to assist them in finding an adoptive family for their Caucasian Baby Boy that was born on March 4, 2014, in Utah. He weighed 6 lbs. 6 oz. and is 17 inches long. D&H desire to meet the adoptive family and would like an adoptive family that is willing to continue communication with them through email, phone calls and occasional visits through out the child’s life.

Baby boy was diagnosed with Metphyseal Dispaysia. He has been discharged and is doing well. Birth parents are anxious for him to be with his adoptive family to begin bonding.

Both birth parents report that they are healthy and free from any major medical illness or injuries. Birth mom reports regular prenatal care beginning at 20 weeks. She reports no current or past use of illegal drugs, alcohol or tobacco. She also reports that other than prenatal vitamins, she only took some Zopran during her pregnancy. Birth father does not report any use of illegal drugs.

If you are a home study approved adoptive couple that meets the requirements above and are interested in an immediate placement of this baby, please contact Act of Love Adoptions at outreach@aactofloveadoptions.com to receive further information regarding the Outreach approval process. If you have not started the home study process, but are a local Utah family, you may contact Act of Love at outreach@aactofloveadoptions.com to possibly be considered for this situation. Only approved Act of Love Outreach adoptive families can receive further information and details available for this situation. The Application for Services in the Outreach Program does NOT require a fee until match.

Adoptive family will need to be prepared to complete an Application for Services, provide an original signed notarized copy of the home study along with supporting documentation and meet other agency requirements to become approved for Outreach situations. The Application for Services in the Outreach Program does NOT require agency fees until you are matched. For more information on the Outreach Program, contact Act of Love Adoption Agency at outreach@aactofloveadoptions.com.

The Many Angels

Some people just come into our lives and have a profound effect on us. Then they quietly move on without realizing that they have changed us for the better. So many birth parents are this way. They are the angels that quietly surround us and make us better people.

Jane and Shawn are some of these angels. They had been together for four years. Jane had a daughter that Shawn treated as his own. Then they had another little girl together. Jane’s extended family became Shawn’s family. They all spent so much time together and were a great support to each other.

Jane and Shawn had a stable and loving relationship. It was at this time that Jane unexpectedly became pregnant. It also happened to be a rough spot financially for Jane and Shawn. They were both in between jobs, and there weren’t a lot of prospects. This created some stress when they started thinking about raising another baby.

As Jane and Shawn talked and talked, the idea of adoption came up. It took Jane some time to work up the courage to call some adoption agencies. When Jane called Act of Love Adoption Agency, she knew in her heart that adoption was going to be the right choice for their baby girl.

Jane and Shawn worked with their caseworker and counselor and chose an adoptive family, Max and Anna, who they immediately connected with. They did conference calls and updates, and looked forward to the time that they would meet in person.

The months flew by and it came time for Jane’s scheduled C-section. Jane’s entire family gathered in her room as support, as well as Shawn, the adoptive family, and the agency staff. Everyone talked and enjoyed each other’s company.

Then it was time for the C-section. Shawn was the only one that could be with Jane, but as soon as the surgery was over, Shawn wheeled the healthy baby girl back into the room so the entire family and adoptive parents could see the sweet baby girl. Tears were shed and hugs were exchanged. This moment bonded Max and Anna to Jane and Shawn forever.

The time spent together in the hospital was pleasant. Max and Anna were so excited to be able to tell this baby all about her birth parents through the stories that were being shared.

All the legal paperwork was taken care of, and it was time for everyone to leave the hospital. Max and Anna were overcome with emotion at the gift they had been given through adoption. Jane and Shawn left the hospital with empty arms, but with very full hearts.

Jane and Shawn continue to move forward in their relationship, being strong and relying on each other. Max and Anna are enjoying bonding as a family, and are so excited to stay in contact with Jane and Shawn, who were their angels.

Utah HB256 – Adoptee Access to Original Birth Certificates

The Utah State Legislature is considering passing a bill that would allow certain adoptees who were born in Utah access to their original birth certificates. Representative Jim Nielson is sponsoring HB256 that would provide for adoptees to have the ability to request a copy of their original birth certificate and, thus, to their biological parents.

This bill like many other states such as Illinois and New Jersey who have presented similar legislation gives those who want to know more information about their biological families a place to start. For many adoptees being able to gain access to information is critical to them. Many want to know who they looked like and why they have the interests they do, but for many there is a need for further medical information to aid in their health and physician’s ability to provide critical care.

This bill, if passed, will only open records for those that were born prior to 1941 and for adoptees that will be born after the bill is passed. The bill still allows for the confidentiality of records that were sealed after 1941 until current. Those who are proposing HB256 are very aware of a birth parents right to maintain their privacy and keep records closed that they believed would remain closed. Additionally, even if the bill does pass, birth parents that desire to have their privacy will have the right for their records to remain closed and confidential.

For many, open adoptions have provided information and access to their medical and health history. Open adoption allows for communication either through a third party for privacy or directly between the birth parents and adoptive families. Act of Love has been providing the option of open adoptions since 1993. We promote healthy relationships and understand the need for all in the adoption triad to feel the connection with each other.

The State of Utah also provides a registry that allows birth parents and adoptees to find each other after the age of 18, if both parties choose to do so. If both parties choose to submit an application, the applications will be matched and contact can then be made. The registry provides for another manner other than through the adoption agency to remain in contact.

If you are interested in seeing this bill passed, please respond TODAY to your legislators and encourage them to “prioritize” the bill for a vote in the State Senate. You can find the legislators in your area by visiting le.utah.gov. Please send them an email with a subject to “Prioritize HB256 Adoptee Bill for Senate Floor Vote”.

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